Pridefest: Gratitude and Lessons Learned

Celebrating Pride: A Weekend to Remember

This past weekend was an incredible celebration of pride in my town, and I was thrilled to be a part of it. I learned so many lessons from performance modification to audience interaction and dressing room etiquette. I have been filled with gratitude for everyone involved! From the supportive community to the fantastic performers, and the hardworking organizers and volunteers. This weekend was filled with so much energy and joy, so I want to share the experience with everyone!

The festivities kicked off on Friday with an amazing drag show at the local gay bar. Unfortunately, I had to miss it as I was still busy with friends stoning and sewing my costume for Saturday's drag competition.

Saturday was a day filled with music, celebration, vendors, and, of course, DRAG! The event featured two stages that hosted bands and drag shows throughout the day. The day began with a delightful drag story hour, followed by a lunchtime drag show which led up to the highly anticipated drag competition of extremely talented performers— it was a close competition… I participated and won! In the afternoon, we enjoyed a fantastic drag king show, followed by boy band drag show that had everyone on their feet. The night culminated with the headlining drag show, featuring some incredible talent, including Landon Cider, winner of Dragula Season 3; Dida Ritz, a contestant from RuPaul's Drag Race Season 4; and Widow Von'Du from RuPaul's Drag Race Season 12. Our local celebrities—Miss Flo NoMo', DeCevia Mann, Victor Von Vicious, Artemesia VanHo, and Ceduxion Carrington—also graced the stage.

And then there was me! By winning the drag competition earlier that day, I secured a spot in the headlining show. Performing alongside such amazing artists was a dream come true, and I learned so much from this incredible opportunity.

What I Learned from Performing at Pride

Participating in my town's Pride celebration was an incredible experience that taught me valuable lessons about performing. Typically, I'm used to performing in bars, where audience engagement is something I continuously work on. Most of my performances have been for crowds of up to maybe a hundred people – most often between 20-50. However, performing for over a thousand people at Pride was a whole new ballgame, and I quickly realized the adjustments I needed to make.

Firstly, I learned the importance of looking beyond the front row. In smaller venues, making eye contact with the audience is key, but with a larger crowd, it's essential to connect with everyone! (there were people in back that I was too overwhelmed to acknowledge) While eye contact remains important, I lost the audience at the back when I bent down to engage with the front row. Bigger gestures and utilizing the entire stage are crucial for keeping a larger audience engaged. I think that I also spent a lot of time trying to address each part of the crowd in a way that distracted me from actually performing. I wasn’t prepared for the significance of such a large crowd.

Nerves were definitely a factor for me, and I did feel like I held back a bit. However, I know that with more experience, my nerves will be less of an issue, and I'll be able to focus more on delivering a dynamic performance. I will be better able to channel my energy with more experience, and without the pressure of a competition early in the day. I believe that this really helped me to prepare for the National Pageant in October that I will be participating in.

Another key takeaway was realizing that my number, while great for a smaller venue, needed to be more impactful for a larger audience. I need to consider longer mixed numbers for bigger shows. Although I was happy with my song choice, I should have mixed another song with it to lengthen my performance. This is a delicate balance, and one that only comes with experience and guidance. For our show earlier in the day, we were told that in order to stay on schedule, each number could be no longer than five minutes, which made sense for that show, but the later show’s number probably should have been around seven minutes. Additionally, having part of my number choreographed will add a polished touch to my act.

Overall, this experience was an eye-opener and a significant step in my growth as a performer. I can't wait to apply these lessons in future performances and continue improving my craft. If given the opportunity again, I'll be better prepared to captivate a large audience and deliver an unforgettable show.

Connecting with the Audience

One of the significant aspects of my town's Pride celebration was not just the performances and festivities but also the interactions with the audience. Before my competition, I spent a few hours walking around the festival, introducing myself to people, and saying hi. Connecting with the audience before and after a show adds an extra layer of connection and makes the event feel special. I love when people ask for pictures after the show, it is fun to see that people are enjoying themselves and it reassures me that the number wasn’t a total flop. There’s also the ego… I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t want the attention, I’m performing drag on stage in front of a bunch of people, of course I want attention! I’ll have to write another post about that odd dichotomy, as far as wanting attention when I am Max, while enjoying solo time and smaller groups when I’m not Max.

Anyway… Pride festivals are filled with energy and joy, but with that energy, it’s inevitable that some people might become a bit too intoxicated. Handling these situations requires understanding and care. Here are some insights I gained on managing drunk individuals, both as a performer and an audience member.

Handling Intoxicated Individuals at a Show: A Performer’s Perspective

Engaging with the audience before a show can be beneficial. It helps build a rapport and creates a supportive atmosphere. Navigating the dynamics of a large, energetic crowd, especially one that includes intoxicated individuals, requires patience, understanding, and sometimes a bit of quick thinking .

Dealing with Intoxicated Individuals

During any event where alcohol is involved, there will always be a few individuals who might overindulge. If you see someone who is too intoxicated, offer them water or suggest they sit down. Sometimes a little kindness can go a long way. If you witness someone being aggressive or making others uncomfortable, report it to the event staff or security.

The Importance of Community Support for Drag Performers

The significance of community support for drag performers cannot be overstated. In a world where acceptance and understanding can often feel like uphill battles, having a supportive community makes all the difference. For drag performers, this support not only validates our art but also strengthens our resolve to continue pushing boundaries and advocating for inclusivity.

A Pillar of Strength

Community support acts as a pillar of strength for drag performers. Knowing that there are people who appreciate and celebrate our work gives us the courage to be our authentic selves. This encouragement is vital, especially in a society that can sometimes be hostile towards those who dare to challenge conventional norms of gender and expression.

During the Pride celebration, the overwhelming support from the community was palpable. From the organizers to the audience members, every person played a role in creating an environment where performers felt valued and respected. This collective backing allows us to focus on our craft, knowing that our community stands behind us.

Community support also fosters meaningful connections. At Pride, I experienced numerous moments that highlighted the deep bond between performers and their supporters. For instance, seeing parents proudly supporting their queer children, engaging with young fans, and receiving encouragement from fellow performers all underscored the importance of these relationships. These connections remind us that we are not alone and that our performances resonate with and inspire others.

Creating Safe Spaces

Community support is the lifeblood of the drag performance world. It provides the strength, connections, and safe spaces we need to thrive. It encourages diversity, inclusivity, and continuous growth. As performers, knowing that we have the backing of our community not only validates our efforts but also motivates us to keep pushing forward. The Pride celebration was a beautiful testament to the power of community support, and I am immensely grateful to be part of such an inclusive, supportive, and dynamic community. Together, we can continue to create magic and inspire others to embrace their true selves.

Appreciating the Dressing Room Etiquette: A Shout-Out to the Organizers

One of the many aspects I appreciated during the Pride celebration was how well the dressing room area was managed. With numerous shows happening back-to-back, the organizers informed us that each performer had to clear out half an hour after our show ended to ensure a smooth transition for everyone.

As performers, it's essential to respect the space and time of others who are trying to get ready. When we’re not performing, we need to step back and allow those who are next to prepare without interruption. Offering help is one thing, but demanding space and attention when it’s not our turn is disrespectful.

This well-managed system not only ensured that everyone had the space they needed but also created a more professional and supportive environment. I deeply appreciate the efforts of the organizers in maintaining this balance and ensuring that the dressing room remained a safe and productive space for all performers.

The Unseen Heroes: Grateful for Our Volunteers

I am deeply grateful for the incredible volunteers who made this Pride event possible. Their tireless efforts ensured that everything ran smoothly, creating an unforgettable experience for everyone involved.

These volunteers were the backbone of the event, running all over the place to assist performers and vendors, ensuring there was enough water for everyone to stay hydrated in the heat, and making sure that everyone had what they needed and remained safe throughout the day. They even had some volunteers running performers to and from the stage on a golf cart. Their dedication and hard work did not go unnoticed, and it was their commitment that allowed us to focus on our performances and enjoy the celebration.

One standout aspect of the event was the presence of amazing ASL interpreters on stage with us during the performances. The interpreter in my view, Phoebe, was particularly dynamic and energetic. She danced during the breaks in lyrics, keeping the energy high and sharing it with the performers on stage. Watching her interpret was beyond witnessing talent—it was experiencing a whole vibe. Phoebe’s ability to convey the performance’s spirit and energy through her interpretation was truly inspiring and added a special dimension to the show.

Volunteers are more than just helpers; they are integral parts of the community and the event’s success. Their passion and energy elevate the entire experience, making it more inclusive and enjoyable for everyone. Their dedication to ensuring a smooth, safe, and enjoyable event for all attendees was remarkable. From keeping everyone hydrated to ensuring effective communication through ASL interpretation, these volunteers embodied the spirit of Pride—support, inclusivity, and community. I am immensely grateful to be part of such an energetic and supportive community, and I look forward to many more events where we can all come together to celebrate and uplift each other.

Beautiful Moments at Pride: Celebrating Community and Support

There were so many beautiful and significant moments during my time at Pride. These moments truly highlighted the essence of what Pride is all about: community, support, and love.

One such moment happened while I was watching the other performers. I noticed a very young kid looking nervous and confused while holding a dollar given to her by her mother. Sensing the child’s hesitation, I asked the mom if it was okay for me to guide the young kid to the stage. With her approval, I had the privilege of witnessing a heartwarming interaction between the child and Priscilla Rock, the performer on stage. The child’s face lit up, and it was a beautiful reminder of the joy and acceptance that drag can bring.

Another touching moment occurred when a mother approached me and shared that her child had recently come out as nonbinary. Although her child couldn’t make it to the show, they had a couple of favorite drag performers. The mother asked for a picture with me to share with her child. It was incredibly comforting and inspiring to see parents out there supporting their queer children so openly and lovingly.

These experiences underscored the importance of visibility and representation. They reminded me why we celebrate Pride and why we continue to fight for acceptance and equality. Seeing parents support their queer children and witnessing moments of connection and joy between performers and young audience members made this Pride celebration truly unforgettable.

The Unwavering Support of Fellow Performers

One of the most heartwarming aspects of this Pride celebration was the incredible support from fellow performers. This sense of community and encouragement is what makes our drag scene so special.

Victor Von Vicious has been a major support for me since I started drag. With 12 years of experience performing in Peoria, he is an inspiration for local drag kings. His guidance and encouragement have been invaluable on my journey.

Landon Cider, who took the stage and spoke about the importance of including drag kings in performances, was another highlight. Landon’s words were a powerful reminder of the need for diversity and representation in drag.

Widow VonDu, a fabulous queen, got the call at midnight the night before the show due to a glitch that messed with flights, preventing the originally booked performer from making it. Despite the last-minute notice, Widow delivered an outstanding performance. She even took time after her numbers to watch and cheer for the other performers, offering me encouragement when she saw how nervous I was.

Dida Ritz came down from Chicago to perform and stayed for the brunch the next day. She joined us for a meal and a kiki afterward, showing just how supportive and community-oriented she is.

Perhaps the most incredible moment was witnessing Miss Flo NoMo's performance. She has spent 2024 battling cancer, and after a full day of event organization in drag, she took the stage for an emotionally charged performance that left the crowd awestruck. Miss Flo NoMo' arrived at Pridefest around 10:00 am and worked tirelessly until the event concluded at 9:30 pm. Her dedication, both as a performer and as a member of the Pride committee, was truly inspiring.

Seeing the awe and inspiration in the performers' eyes as the crowd exploded during Miss Flo NoMo's number was a testament to her strength and resilience. Her performance was not just a highlight of the event but also a powerful reminder of the courage and determination within our community.

The support from fellow performers, both seasoned and new, was a significant highlight of the Pride celebration. Their encouragement, dedication, and camaraderie made this event not just a celebration of diversity but also a showcase of the incredible talent and heart within our community. I am proud to be part of such a supportive and dynamic group of performers and look forward to continuing to grow and shine together. The words of encouragement from seasoned performers like Victor Von Vicious, Landon Cider, Widow VonDu, Miss Flo NoMo’, and Dida Ritz were invaluable. Their support and guidance helped me, and many others, navigate the challenges of performing in a large, dynamic environment. These interactions are crucial for personal and professional growth, reinforcing the idea that we are all in this together.

Embracing Diversity in Our Community

A significantly impactful aspect of this Pride celebration was the incredible diversity in the lineup. At the final headliner show, among the eight performers on stage, there were three kings, at least one transgender performer, and five performers of color. What made this even more remarkable was that it wasn’t an intentional decision. The selection of local performers was based on show hosts, local celebrities, and the winner of the drag competition. We aren’t seen as any sort of token, we are viewed as performers. This natural diversity is a testament to the inclusive and supportive nature of our community.

I am immensely proud to be part of a community that embraces and encourages performers based on their talent, regardless of their gender identity, race, drag expression, or background. This celebration of diversity not only highlights the richness of our community but also sets an example for others to follow. It shows that when we prioritize talent and authenticity, we create a space where everyone can shine.

The Pride celebration was a powerful reminder of the progress we’ve made and the work that still needs to be done. It reinforced the importance of unity, acceptance, and the ongoing fight for equality. I am grateful for the opportunity to be part of such an inclusive and dynamic community, and I look forward to continuing to celebrate and uplift the diverse voices within it.

Pride is about celebrating who we are, embracing our community, and lifting each other up. This weekend was a beautiful reminder of why we continue to fight for equality and representation. Thank you to everyone who made this event unforgettable!

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